Last month we spoke about faith, fortune and success.
The subject of today is quite different:
Let me tell you a short story:
Some time ago my son and I went out to run an errand together.
We came back and discovered that we both had left the keys inside of the house.
Ahhhh…
Locked out. Closed door.
Has that ever happend to you?
To lock yourself out of your own house?
It’s a sudden change of plan.
What happens to you when you notice that you are locked out?
You can feel frustrated and get annoyed or start to worry.
You can make plans how to get into the house,
design plan a ) plan b) and plan c)
You can give in and accept that all you planned to do suddenly has to wait. -)
Let go ! Shift expectation.
and:
To stand in front of a closed door can feel like receiving a NO.
Blocked access to what you want right now.
How do you deal with receiving a NO?
Do you take it as a personal rejection?
Or can you see it independant of your own value, ambition or sense of identity?
“No” is an opportunity to shift plan.
To look deeper, to be flexible, to let go.
To go with what is.
Find another way, instead of banging your head against the closed door.
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Let’s go on the other side – of that door:
Giving a “No”. Closing the door.
Is it easy for you to say “No” ?
Do you tend to avoid it, to be nice and say yes –
even though inside you feel a “No” ?
To make compromises to keep everybody happy?
In many cultures it is taboe to give a direct “No”.
It can be a very complicated dance to figure out what people really mean.
If they full heartedly agree or are either too polite or culturally conditioned to avoid giving a “No”.
It can also be a strategic choice and there are many ways to disguise a “No”.
It often takes sensitivity and curiosity to peel through the layers of (cultural) conditioning to come to the real essence of why to say yes / no – or maybe – linger in between to keep doors open…
Tips when you receive a “NO”:
Observe your response
Do you take it with ease?
Do you feel hurt, disappointed?
Do you stay connected to figure out a different way?
When you are in a situation to give a “No”:
Is it easy for you to say “No”?
How do you express it?
Notice if you tend to avoid it or find dances around…
I am curious to hear what you will experience!
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