IS THAT YOU?
Here are some examples about Body &Voice Coaching … how you feel before and after.
Below you find also the practicals and how to get started!
“Waiting for the moment … “
Before…
When I am in a discussion or meeting I tend to listen and am silent a lot.
I like to hear the opinion of everybody. Sometimes I tend to miss the impulse or grab the moment of speaking up.
It makes me feel like I am over flooding with information and I miss the opportunity to express myself.
I feel like I am invisible and constipated at the same time!
Often I am silent consciously because I feel the room needs it and an additional comment will not add.
As a result, people tend to underrate my expertise or don’t know what I can contribute to the project.
After…
I sense the moment of speaking up and grabbing it to let my voice be heard! I experience a balance when to listen and when to contribute to the conversation and it feels organic.
I find a way of bringing in my expertise in various ways: one-on-one conversations, written reports, and speaking about my ideas and suggestions.
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“I become shy and am worried about what people will think of me”
Before…
When I am invited to speak about a topic in a group of people that I do not know, I become shy. I am worried about the impression I will make and am afraid to fail or not be liked. I look down a lot and have difficulty staying connected to myself and keep the connection to the group or the audience.
After…
I am confident to talk to strangers and curious about a new situation. I look out to see what is happening around me and can stay connected at the same time to what is going on inside of me.
I leave the possible judgments of other people to them and don’t let them affect me in what I am offering.
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“Help! I am a talking head!”
Before…
When I am in a discussion sitting around a table with people – especially if it is around a complex situation or a problem that wants to be solved I tend to become this talking head. I forget about my body…and I forget even sometimes to breathe! I tend to hold my breath when I am thinking and then notice it only when I feel that my breathing has become very shallow or I become very tired.
After…
During discussions and meetings I am listening and speaking with my whole body: I stay energized and give energy to others by moving and being moved by the content of the words.
I am aware of my breathing. It supports me to notice when I need to breathe deeper. It gives me space to perceive with clarity and stay connected to myself, the discussion, and the other people. I can listen with space inside and be relaxed.
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“When I see a Flip chart or PowerPoint Setting, any type of formal setting — I get nervous…”
Before…
I find it easy to express myself when I am in a private situation or with friends. I love to tell stories and enjoy doing that! But as soon as it changes to a business setting I get nervous, my heart starts to pound and I even get red spots in my neck and face…that formal situation inhibits me in my expression and freedom. I am anxious that my ideas are not good enough or will not be taken seriously and I experience a barrier between the private and the professional “ME”.
After…
I am confident and calm independent if I am going to speak to close friends or in a more formal setting. I am able to stay connected to my own body and breath as well as to the content of my message and enjoy bringing my imagination also into the workplace. I vary how I say something and what. I trust that my ideas are worthwhile and valuable to contribute to the process.
I am myself regardless of the board room or campfire.
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“Why do people not hear me? Or speak over me?”
Before…
It has happened that I say something and no one hears it…! – or someone else says the same thing, but then it’s welcomed as a very interesting point. Why did they not listen to me in the first place? Or I am searching for words because I was not sure about the point and people tend to speak over me.”
My voice starts trembling or is croaky, then I don’t like the sound of it. When other people are talking at the same time I have trouble making myself heard.
After…
Your voice is steady and you are comfortable with using different pitches and tones using the full range of it, from high to low, soft and loud. You accept and enjoy the particular quality of your own voice. If it is croaky or breaking, you don’t make a big deal out of it and know how to change it. You are able to cut through a crowd of voices if it’s necessary.
link back to “Own Your Voice” Page
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Do you recognize yourself in one or more of these situations?
Would you like to change it?
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